How to Find Your Tribe and Build a Quality Network

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn.

Today’s post is inspired by one of our readers, Stephanie C. in North Carolina. Stephanie is possibly moving and exploring work in another city, and she asked me:

How can I see what professional relationships are like in a different city? And how do I find my tribe, especially since I’m not finding it where I currently live?

Finding your tribe is a game changer for almost any challenge you’re facing: love, work, health, etc.

Where networking is about making connections and leveraging those connections to get a job, get information, or build a partnership, finding your tribe is about belonging to a community of people who understand you, support you, provide resources for growth, and make you feel like you’re not going at it alone.

Although it’s not easy to find your tribe, whether in a personal or professional setting, it is definitely possible, no matter where you live. Below are four steps to finding your community.

Be Clear about You

What Do You Value?

Before you start reaching out to people, scheduling calls and attending events, take some time to get clear about you. What are your values? What’s most important to you?

Different communities have different values, and as you survey for your tribe, you can let your values guide you. Think back to profound and memorable experiences that you’ve had.

What stands out about these events? Were you taking risks? Were you connecting with others? Write out your experiences, what you were doing and feeling, and see if you can connect the dots.

What Do You Care About?

I’m not talking about identifying your “passion.” That’s a loaded question. Simply make a list of the blogs and books you gravitate to. Are there podcasts you can’t wait to download?

We leverage our interests to connect with people and find others with similar work and hobbies. This step will also show up later, so just take note.

What’s Your Problem?

We all get stuck somewhere and making a transition can definitely bring on new challenges. Be clear about your need.

For example, when I was launching this website and working on my first company, I had a multitude of challenges: needing access to affordable legal advice, understanding how to overcome different tech hurdles, and finding emotional support to survive the entrepreneurial path. The list goes on.

Often times, we know something is bugging us, thwarting us, but we don’t take time to sit down and articulate it.

Be clear on your problem so you can find the right community to help you solve it. This way, you’ll also know how to best leverage that community.

Start the Conversations

Now that you’re clear on you, you can start to “network.” Networking becomes easier because you know what you’re looking for.

Here’s a quick guide:

Go back to your interests. Are there any events/meetups in your area around those topics? Do a quick google search or check out

For my shy ladies and gents, are you dreading that Meetup with 50 people? If you’re better one on one, you can still be just as effective at building relationships. Reach out to the owner of the Meetup group, and get to know him or her. A one on one call might make the event less intimidating.

However, like in Stephanie’s case, there may not be many cool events in the area. If events are lacking, or you strongly prefer more intimate conversations, try the following:

Go to your LinkedIn homepage. What’s on your news feed? Are there any articles that pique your interest?

Professionals who are immersed in their work often leverage LinkedIn to write about what they’re doing or researching. Don’t be shy about reaching out to the writer if his or her work speaks to you.

I received this email a few months ago, and a few months later, the writer of this email joined the entrepreneurial community to which I belong even though she lives in Los Angeles.

You can take a similar approach with podcasts you listen to or search Twitter for people tweeting about topics that resonate with you. Don’t let location hold you back.

The key is to look for the opportunity, for those who are writing or talking about your interests. Reach out and make a genuine connection. – Tweet It! 

Some Amazing Communities for You to Explore Further

Take your outreach to the next level by joining already-established, mission driven groups that offer both one-on-one support and group events.

I’m a founding member of Dreamers // Doers, an incredible community of trailblazing women. This community is my tribe. They have my back when I’m having the worst day, and I’m so lucky to have found them. With recommendations from many of the women in the group, I’ve curated this list of communities that you may find helpful.

  • The Good Life Project is a diverse community of artists, entrepreneurs, full-time parents, C-suite executives, and students who are looking to live more meaningful, connected lives. I personally enjoy their podcast and they offer workshops and events to help you take your business and life to the next level.

  • The Lady Project is a membership community that showcases women doing amazing things. They now have chapters all over the U.S. that empower and support women.

  • The Coaching Fellowship is an incredible community of nonprofit leaders, impact entrepreneurs, activists, rocket scientists, artists and more. They offer executive coaching at a highly discounted price, and an opportunity to connect with mission-driven women.
  • Women Catalysts is “for those of you who want to get ahead without losing your heart.” They offer coaching through workshops and events, and have a highly engaged community both online and offline.

  • Lean On is a new app that connects women with mentors. They offer personalized support that can make your work day more successful.

  • SheWorx is a global community of ambitious female entrepreneurs and change makers redefining leadership. They host weekly breakfast events aimed to take your network to the next level.

  • Marie Forleo is a writer and the host of MarieTV. Her mission is to help entrepreneurs build a business and life they love through weekly content and a large, supportive online community.

  • Six Degrees Society is a woman focused community that “takes the guesswork out of networking” by curating matches during their events.Talk about making networking less awkward!

  • Global Shapers Community is a network of city-based Hubs developed and led by young leaders who want to develop leadership skills and serve society.

  • Thousand Network is a global community aiming to help its members reach their full potential. They’re leveraging community to build a better world.

  • Watermark is a professional organization working to increase the number of women in leadership positions. They host online and offline events, workshops, speaker series and more.

A few close connections can make a big difference in helping you create a strong network. These valuable, two-way relationships can provide you with the support you need to navigate the highs and lows of work and life.

Now I’d love to hear from you! What steps have you taken to find your tribe? What’s worked for you, and where are you still stuck? Share in the comments below. And as always, if you like this post, make sure to subscribe and share.